Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Positive Attitude: How To Stay Positive

Attitude is everything these days, even pre-screening hiring and employment interview processes have assessments and scenarios built in to see how potential hires will handle, interact, problem-solve, what their attitude is, positive, negative, ambivalent, undecided, purposeful etc. in some Buddhist teachings the source of all happiness if by having a positive outlook on life If you are mainly positive, you are less likely to suffer or experience even hardship as negative, rather character building. Values like empathy, compassion and gratitude come from a place where you feel you can freely give, share, acknowledge and so on. You too can be happier, more resilient, and less depressed.

The latest self-help craze, fad, can be summarized as waking up, going to work expecting the best, something positive and in all likelihood it will happen. When it comes to the literal root meaning and etymology of the word, It claws back to the French, from Italian attitudine, from Late Latin aptit d , aptit din-, faculty ; see aptitude, hinting to frame of mind affecting one's thoughts or behavior: outlook, position, posture, stance. Having a good or positive attitude could mean that the following are present in your thoughts, words, action, outlook on life, what others might say of you, or how you would characterize yourself if asked about it:

- amiability
- benevolence
- confidence
- consideration
- gallantry
- gravity
- modesty

Versus the flip-side of the coin and negative attitude which would involve things like:

- arrogance
- condescension
- cruelty
- cynic
- detachment
- impudence
- malevolence
- snob

When these aspects and qualities are compared, contrasted and positioned in this fashion, it is easy to see how positive attitude will be more enabling and negative attitude more destructive potentially. There is always of course neutrality and/or ambivalence which is another kettle of fish entirely and representative of what many of us experience as our own self-discovery continues. Whether you read into this your state of mind, manner of carrying yourself, a disposition, orientation, opinion, towards something, somebody or an event, mental training, self-hypnosis, positive mantras and affirmations, motivational self-help type advice abounds in the marketplace, to get you started on this path. It all starts with getting out of bed and being deliberately more positive it seems to attract the best and positive things in life towards you, into reality and enjoy the fruits of your labor. (at least according to Oprah and the author of The Secret).

Positive Attitude: Tips For Success

Here are some great ways to practically get, be and keep a positive attitude and what it can do for you in your life and future:

- Accept yourself and share with other thoughts and actions, borne of deep inner peace and tranquility, self-confidence and positive attitude – see the day, lives and future change right before your eyes.
- Avoid all forms of negative judgmental self critique, back talk, self-chatter that is self-defeating.(what some call our inner critic or conscience).
- Communication and the ability to express what you want, say, think, feel is paramount. If you are coming from a point of a positive attitude you will be best served coming across as confident, credible, reliable, etc.
- Here are some more wise words from Carl Jung: “Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.”
- Make precious moments count and collect memories that last a lifetime. Do not bear burdens from the past, reconcile and ask/grant forgiveness, no grudges, no regrets, banning negativity from your life, can have far-reaching effects and impact on your health and even longevity. You are one functioning whole and letting go is the only way to embrace what is to come.
- Take care or the small, sentimental, significant things and people in and around your life, doing the things you enjoy. Make and keep things positive. Make a point of it to surround yourself with upbeat and similarly positive energy and individuals. See the pleasure in the little and simple things.
- Lend a helping hand and believe in human goodness once again.
- Do a favor for someone else, pay it forward, run and errand for someone, volunteer or entertain an elderly person by reading their favorite book or poetry, serve your community of join a special interest group working with teens, troubled youngsters, food-bank etc.
- Find your inner self and reflect more on your peace, contribution and sharing that you have to give.
- Think of yourself as achieving something great in life – having purpose and meaning, direction to your life and existence.
- Expect better and the most from and for yourself. Learn from both success and failure to succeed, which is just another way of learning more, new things, even if only what not to do (again). Keep the hope alive…
- To love and be loved is a very real thing, without which our lives will be characterized by distrust, mistrust, fear, depression, guilt, anger, un-forgiveness, and every negative thought and emotion imaginable. Make disconnection reconnection and see the humor, fun side to life ever so often. Boost your confidence and be a lifelong learner, keeping your faculties sharp as a tack. Involve and engage self and others in mental activities, gaming, social networks, to improve confidence levels and provide positive attitude derivative coping mechanisms. Nutrition, exercise, wellness, mood and attitude go hand in hand.

The Law of Attraction In Business

Ever had something you really wanted fall miraculously in place? Maybe this job opportunity you desperately wanted? Or a call from the person you had been thinking of for a while? Or even a chance meeting on street with the perfect client or partner? We use various methods to describe these events. Serendipity, coincidence, Fate, karma, the advantages of being in the right place at the right time, call it what you will. All these expressions describe the result of what is generally known as the laws of attraction, commonly known as a New Age theory and the very basis of today’s mantra- “Positive thinking”. According to this you acquire whatever you concentrate your energy, thoughts and feelings on, positive and negative alike. A kind of self-fulfilling prophecy, it acts like a request to the universe at large and conveys what you desire most. It is like a magical mantra which will get you whatever you want, provided that you understand how this law works and utilize it to your advantage.

A very powerful mantra, the law of attraction can also affect your future adversely if you are not careful. The first step would be to be conscious of what you say.

Translating our thoughts into statements is a powerful action and directly affects our “Fate”. Our statements convey not only our fears and intentions but also the vibes we exude. People often misinterpret understating their hopes/ or even self-worth to be modesty.

Sometimes it’s even done to mislead the other party but by doing this; you only succeed in alienating your own good fortune. For instance- positive statements like- “I love the way my reputation attracts clients to me” or “I love the way money comes to me effortlessly in expected and unexpected ways”, increases your chances of success in such cases due to the positive energy that you attract.

Failure too, is a result of such declarative statements.

The law of attraction also responds to negative declarative statements like- "I take one- step forward and two-steps back”, and gives us more of them. So every time you make a negative statement, check the tendency. Simply rephrase it into something positive and promising that makes you feel better. Try this- ask yourself, “What do I want?” The moment you define what you want, you start experiencing a new mood. You seem more capable and powerful. Life will change for the better and these positive changes will become more frequent and evident. This is because you have set those universal forces in motion which determine your fate, based on your action. Recall the mood or feeling that could have lead to this. Soon you will be able to manifest more positive events and less of the unwanted ones, by using the law of attraction to your benefit.

People therefore have direct control over reality and their lives through thought alone. The trick is to be proactive.

The Law of Attraction Semantics

What is the use of a life that doesn’t grant you happiness? Living life to the fullest is all about living a happy life, a content life, a life where you are at peace with your own personal truth. The greater the acceptance of truth on your part, the more the chance for you to experience happiness and thereby attract positive things to yourself.

Your personal belief and your personal truth are two very different concepts and you’d be best advised to not confuse one with the other. Your beliefs are ideas you have learnt from the variety of experiences you have had in your lifetime. Whereas your personal truth is something that has always existed, even before you learnt to acknowledge it.

Life is about fulfilling desires. Attracting things we desire brings us immense pleasure and pleasure is the key route to happiness. If you are yet to find happiness you probably know that it will come to you only when you manage to acquire what you desire. There is an incredible power equation between our capacity to attract and our need to be happy, as you will no doubt learn soon, neither is of value without the other.

If you have fulfilled your desire then you have probably also found your way to happiness. You have probably already realized how incredibly powerful the Law of Attraction is and how it can help you forget all your worries and achieve anything you want from life.

Before discussing further about this extraordinary potential of the Laws of Attraction let us take a brief look at a few words commonly used in this Rule of Attraction process.

Man has always been fond of inventing a number of ways of saying the same things. Thus even for a mundane enough situations as using a common salutation he has a variety of words. ‘Hi’, ‘hello’, ‘Wassup’, ‘how are you’ are various forms of the same salutation customarily used when one person meets another, and yet all of them are technically ‘different’ expressions. This variety is not unique to the English language alone almost all languages all over the world have a range of words meaning exactly the same thing.

Similarly, universal laws too can be expressed in a variety of ways but they will ultimately always mean the exact same thing. Take gravity for instance; all of us have our own way of defining gravity, some of us call it a ‘force’ others refer to it as a ‘downward pull’ but of course we all mean the same thing. The words we choose to express a certain idea is our own and therefore based on our personal choice regarding the structure of a sentence etc. But no matter how we express a certain idea its inherent facts always remain the same.

Semantics is an extremely important part of the Law of Attraction since it is among one of the most significant socio-spiritual laws in the universe. Like everything else people have a variety of ways of describing all spiritual experiences as well. Much like the Gravitational law the Laws of Attraction too may be described in a variety of ways, but no matter how you choose to describe it it will continue to function in the same manner. We all have different names for God but ultimately the almighty is one and the same. Hence, while dealing with the Laws of Attraction and in almost every other aspect of life you’d be more likely to grasp a certain situation better only if you get past its basic semantic sense. Instead, concentrate on the inner meaning of a certain expression since that and only that will reveal to you what a certain speaker is trying to convey to you.

Communication lies at the heart of relationships so don’t ignore it.

Once you brace up to this basic fact ask yourself a few relevant questions. Begin by asking yourself about the exact means by which you are attracting this particular condition or thing. Do you really want to be attracting it?

What kind of changes will this particular object/situation of desire bring about in your social, spiritual and personal life? What is keeping you from achieving this particular object/situation right at this moment? Are your personal beliefs holding you back? How serious are you about seeing this dream through to its completion level?

Are you approaching the present situation from a positive angle? How far are you willing to go to satisfy your want? What do you expect out of your desire?

What will keep you motivated enough to persevere and ultimately achieve it? Answering all these questions honestly lies at the heart of fulfilling your desires in the manner you want.

The Law of Attraction: Think Positive

You must have heard about the Laws of Attraction. It is a new concept that has become the center of a lot of attention. There are some important facts missing in the way the Law is being publicized.

In order to understand these laws completely, you have to get a lot of information on it. there are certain things that you need to be well versed with before you can be confident about being well informed about the Laws of Attraction.

You may have heard that the key to the Laws of Attraction is positive thinking. This is somewhat true. However, there is a lot more to this theory than just positive thinking.

You must remember that your inner self is a very important part of your universe. for example, if you ask for a lot of wealth so that you will be able to help people.

Then, once the universe answers you and you end up getting a lot of wealth, you get carried away with it. you immerse yourself in all your riches and do not keep the promise that you made. This will result in the transference of your wealth to another being. This is the result in most cases.

Thus, you must remember that the external world is a manifestation of your inner self. If you concentrate on hoarding and do not develop your inner self, the universe will cease to respond to your calls. The first thing that you should do is to hone your inner being.

Remember that whatever you have will become amplified. If you are a greedy person, the greed will grow. On the other hand, if you are energetic and your soul is wealthy, the wealth will get amplified. Stop blaming the world around you. Do not try to curse your surroundings and blame the world around you. Start with changing yourself and correcting yourself.

There are certain basic laws that are in control of your world. There are certain forces that are somewhat under human control, for example, electricity. However, there are certain fixed forces like friction and gravity that are beyond human control. If you are well versed with these forces, you will be in a position of great advantage and will be able to use these laws to the best of your circumstances. However, these laws are so powerful that you can never master them completely.

The Law of Attraction is a law that helps you make your life better if you understand it to some extent. You are the master of your being and you can play a great role in the shaping up of your reality. Do not try to take the easy way and plunge into anything before fully comprehending it. Try to develop yourself and then change the way the world looks at you and the way it treats you.

If you are under the impression that using the Laws of Attraction will miraculously change your life overnight, you are quite mistaken. It definitely has the power to influence your life, but only if you know how to use it. Try to come to terms with yourself. If you are not satisfied with what you are, it will definitely take a lot of time to help yourself. You have to understand yourself, accept yourself and then try to improve your world. It might take time, but you will eventually realize that developing your inner self render your world beautiful.

The Law of Attraction: Does It Work?

If you are one of the people who are quite worried because the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for them and have simply given up on the practice, don’t lose heart.

The movie “The Secret” is an excellent representation of the law of attraction. However, many often misinterpret the movie. This misinterpretation is basically centered upon the idea that the thoughts are generating reality.

You must comprehend that it is not the thoughts themselves that make the things happen. It is the energy evolved through these thoughts that make this law work.

How effective your prayers will be is directly dependent on the amount of energy that you are able to generate by virtue of your thoughts. In fact, the amount of energy that will be generated also depends upon the amount of emotional energy that you invest in the thoughts.

Another thing that you must remember is that negative thoughts can have an adverse effect on the manifestation of your desires. This happens because the positive thoughts generate positive energy and result in the fulfillment of your desires. Since the amount of energy generated depends upon the amount of positive thoughts, negative thoughts have a negative effect and decrease the energy that is going to give shape to your desires. The negative energy cancels out the effect of the positive. Thus, when you ask for something, always do so with a frame of mind that is positive.

The more you concentrate upon your desires and think about your wish coming true, the more positive vibrations are sent to the cosmos. Try to keep that positive frame of mind consistently. In fact, if you see that negative thoughts are coming into the sphere of your thoughts then make a conscious attempt to erase them. Have faith in yourself and the universe. Try to evade doubt and you will surely get what you are yearning for.

Every day, keep some time to meditate on your desires. Select a time when you will not be disturbed by anybody and concentrate on the fulfillment of your desire. For example, if you want a great car, imagine yourself driving the car of your dreams. Put all the forces of your imagination at work and visualize your dream.

Apart from the time that you spend concentrating on the desire, remember that you must not think about whether you will achieve the goal or not. As we have told you earlier, just by bringing in doubt you can undo the wonderful effects of your concentration. The negative energy has the potential to cancel out everything. So never let doubt seep into your mind. one of the best things is to begin with a desire that is not one of your immediate needs. For example, try to begin with something that will be great if you got it but is not indispensable. This is because you tend to have more doubt about the things you desperately require. If you are in great need of money, you will inevitably think about what will happen if your desires fail. This is the kind of doubt that often undoes the great work.

Thus, it is good to begin with the smaller desires. Once you are successful in achieving these little things it will give your faith a boost and improve the power of your concentration. This will enable you to focus on the bigger and more difficult things with ease later on.

Remember that the laws of desire are strange, if you can put in enough positive energy and faith, they can come true immediately. Have the faith and try to put in all the positive vibes you can gather. The results will definitely be great!

Positive Attitude: Just Another Way Of Thinking?

Most attitudes begin with a feeling or emotion toward something. A deliberate act, conscious and un/sub-consciously we live based on these. Some sources define it as A frame of mind in favor of or opposed to a person, policy, belief, institution, determining where you stand, how you orient yourself to life, environment, self, others. So where are you on this scale? Are you positive, negative, somewhere in-between?

So a positive attitude then might be more than a mere complex mental state involving beliefs and feelings, values and dispositions to think, speak and act in certain ways.

Biomedical research shows clear links here between our thoughts, cognitive minds, bodies – we are a holistic, self-managing being and interactive system. There are many correlations, studies and findings that suggest, the more positive, happier we are, the less likely we are to get really ill, sick or diseased. The mind-body connection is real and if we take more of an optimistic outlook we can improve more than just mental health, also our physical well-being.

There are definite evidence that suggest that we can surely attribute positive thinking and attitudes to an improved physical state or put differently if there are high levels of psychological well-being present it can and will benefit physical health.

Higher levels of well-being type patients, have lower cardiovascular risk, lower levels of stress hormones and lower levels of inflammation, all evidence that the immune system is operational, functioning optimally. So why and how come we are not positive all the time, most of the time, at all? Maybe because we do not quite yet understand how to harness it at all, let alone fully to optimize our potential and capacity as human beings.

What and how we think, every day, can really shape and impact all of our life, both personally and professionally, in all areas of our daily living.
What we say to ourselves and others, will eventually over time reveal a patterned behavior in us, that will affect the processes, interactions, exchanges and dynamics of our everyday. Even and specifically when it comes to how we cope and handle life, stress, conflict, daily living, setbacks, and more. WE have a lot of negative impact, thoughts and messages in our minds that affect how and what we do, behave, say and act upon. Hormonal fluctuations, emotions, our physical health can all attest to these facts and linkages. Sleeping enough, replenishing the body when it needs it most, maintain, replace energy resources, boosting our immune system effectiveness, mental and emotional clarity and overall quality of life is possible with powerful, positive affirmations of all kinds. Slow down sometimes, prepare well, relieve stress, de-clutter and simplify, wind down, surround yourself with the beauties and pleasures of life and developing a positive attitude is now within easy reach. It is a multi-billion dollar self-help industry that keeps on growing as we want to embrace the fact more and more that we are in control somewhat of what happens and occurs in and through our own lives.

Listen and be aware of what your thoughts are, positive or negative and replace negative with positive thoughts for a week and see what happens. Write them down if you find it hard to do and then read them later on.

Positive Attitude: What Can It Do For You?

Once and for all, you can change negative self-fulfilling prophesies and negative self-talk, setting yourself up to fail. You can actively, deliberately do a 180 degree turn and start thinking in a positive manner about yourself and your life, your future. You can be happy and successful, experience life to its fullest. Actively make better, more positive choices, choose your process and outcome and be more in control, not a victim of circumstance.

Happiness over sadness, smiles over tears, do not deny yourself emotions and upset, just put a different spin and light (perspective) on it and you will see life, outlook, prospects, mood change. Find the silver lining in every dark cloud and you will start seeing things you never would have otherwise.

Be, get and stay optimistic and positive despite what might be challenging and getting you under right this very minute. Take a longer view, futuristic and forward-focused. Be good-humored, patient and look for what life and tomorrow has to offer for you. Dismiss worries and stress, negative thinking and ban worry from your life. Ensure that you surround you with others who are positive also, be inspiring, affirm to yourself happiness, health, powerful positive mantras that motivate and let you reach higher, believe in yourself, embrace potential, promise and opportunity. That is the nature and scope of a positive attitude! Dare to speak into reality what you wish for to be, master your thinking and wayward mind, concentrate, focus and reflect on things more often, at every opportunity and you might surprised how different things might be in the morning!

The benefits of a positive attitude abound, stretching deep, reaching high, far and wide, for a variety of things in life. There are many faces, guises and ways that it will manifest itself in both your personal and professional life. If you have positive attitude you and others will recognize:

- An innate and undeniable ability to inspire and motivate self and others.
- Confidence and self-belief
- Goal achievement
- Happy and energetic, more life-force, driven and determined, more stamina, endurance and perseverance, greater inner power and strength.
- Success faster, readily, easily, without much hassle – seemingly seamless and almost effortless, by default
- Less hurdles, obstacles and difficulty to overcome on life’s path
- Overcoming trouble and problems easily, finding solutions quickly, almost on demand
- More open-minded and welcoming
- Gaining respect for self, by others
- Positive attitude believes you can, say yes, negative attitude just the opposite!